Commentators have slammed a man after he told his pregnant wife he hoped their daughter didn’t look like him during a toast to relatives.
The anonymous woman, known as u/Lillington579, posted the incident on Reddit’s popular “Am I the A**hole” forum where she received over 12,000 upvotes and 2,200 comments and many claimed the man’s comments were emotionally hurtful. The position can be found here.
Emotional abuse, also called emotional abuse, involves attempts to isolate, frighten, or control an individual, according to Healthline. A common tactic of emotional abuse is to undermine an individual’s self-esteem.
Some examples include making condescending comments, telling them to “play a joke” and embarrassing them in public.
In the post titled “AITA leaving in the middle of the party for my husband’s toast?” the woman, 25, said she was pregnant with her and the first child of her husband, 31.
They recently found out the girl is a girl and her in-laws hosted a dinner party for them to celebrate the reveal.
When they arrived at dinner, the woman said she was nervous because there were more people than she expected and she doesn’t like crowds.
She said she was angry that her husband had not told her how many people were coming, but she remained calm, even though she barely ate because of her anxiety.
During the celebration, her husband said he wanted to toast.
“He opened a bottle and poured a drink and wanted our daughter to be ‘healthy, happy, but not like me at all,'” the post read. “Everyone at the table was laughing. I just sat there staring at him in shock as he continued to laugh along with them. »
Feeling anger and anxiety, the woman said she grabbed her things and left, followed by her mother-in-law.
The woman said she wanted to go home, but when her husband came through the door, they started arguing.
“He said it was a ‘joke toast’ and my reaction was over the top,” the post read. “But the thing is, ever since I got pregnant, she’s been insinuating that she doesn’t want our daughter to look like me. He even got up once in the morning and the first thing he said to me was how much he wished our daughter wasn’t like me.”
She said the comments hurt her because she was already dealing with anxiety and low self-esteem, but when she told her husband she wanted to come home, he said that she was “a little girl” and that she had to learn to “make a joke”.
He also told her that walking out of dinner was disrespectful to her loved ones who had come to celebrate.
“I got home and he called me several times telling me to keep my ‘insecurities’ under control before passing them on to our daughter,” the post read. “He urged me to get therapy and stop acting as dramatic as I did in front of his family.”
More than 2,200 users commented on the post, many of whom criticized the man for his “bullying” and “abusive” behavior.
“Emotional abuse is no joke,” wrote one user.
“Is leaving is the best solution? Yes, and not just dinner. He’s said more than once that he doesn’t want his son to look like you,” one user commented. “Pay attention. He showed you exactly who he is and what he really thinks of you. Believe him.”
“He also makes fun of you about the insecurities HE REINFORCES IN YOU,” another user added. “That’s abusive behavior, OP. You don’t deserve it, and neither does your daughter. Because your husband is 100% the type of HA that will cause your daughter to have self-esteem issues. similar so that she can also control.”
“This looks really offensive. NTA,” another user wrote. “Your husband needs to get rid of the ‘jokes’ and grow up. And I think you should go to therapy to learn to appreciate yourself. »
News Week contacted u/Lillington579 for comment.
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