The Internet Supports the Woman Whose ‘Energy Diet’ Includes Stepmom Elimination

People on the Internet have teamed up in support of a married woman who has revealed why she stopped attending her mother-in-law’s weekly family dinners.

In a viral Reddit post posted to r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/energydiet33 (otherwise known as the original poster or OP) said she was tired of being insulted by her husband’s mother and explained how her decision to no longer interact with her stepmother caused a lot of family tension.

entitled “[Am I the a**hole] for saying mine [mother-in-law] about my “energy diet” and saying that’s why I don’t come to his weekly family dinners anymore? “The post has received over 8,600 votes and 1,600 comments in the last ten hours.

Writing that she had previously attended family dinners with her husband, the original poster stated that an onslaught of insults from her stepmother had caused her to eliminate the tough woman from her life altogether.

“At every dinner party he hosts, he finds a way to comment on my hair, my body, my job, my age and, even worse, my infertility,” OP wrote. “It upsets me, it makes me uncomfortable and it puts me in difficulty. [Mother-in-law says she’s just looking out for me and my husband thinks I’m being too sensitive.”

“During ‘my’ last dinner there, [mother-in-law] commented on my infertility telling me to hurry up and get pregnant soon because ‘I’m not getting any younger’,” OP continued. “After that, I didn’t feel comfortable going there… My husband had a seizure but eventually started going alone.”

After missing several family dinners, the original poster said she got a call from her mother-in-law and took advantage of their conversation to let go of her feelings.

“He asked me if I should show up for family dinner next week,” OP wrote. “I said ‘no, I’m actually on a diet’ [and] he laughed and said I really needed to lose “a few pounds”.

“I said ‘oh no, I’m actually on an energy diet, that means if there’s something that bothers me, makes me uncomfortable, makes me difficult, then I don’t want it. not and I don’t want to waste my energy on it.”, continued OP. “She got upset and said I was being rude to her for no good reason.”

“My husband came home later and started yelling at me [what] I told his mother,” OP added. “He said again that I was too sensitive but added that I was embarrassing him in front of his whole family and he said that in deciding not to show up anymore, I’m basically telling him the family ‘F* *ky’ all ‘ with all their faces”.

Stories of toxic, bullying, and offensive stepmothers are scattered throughout Reddit’s r/AmITheA** hole, and in most cases read the same as the story provided by the original poster.

However, a mother-in-law targeting her daughter-in-law’s fertility issues is extreme and deserves a blanket response, such as refusing to attend family gatherings and cutting off contact as much as possible.

Earlier this year, parenting website We Have Kids published an eight-step guide advising married women on how to reclaim the power of their toxic mother-in-law.

Steps include stopping all efforts to appease the toxic behavior, not reacting to overt instigations, and setting both limits with dire consequences if violated.

However, the eighth and final step proposed by We Have Kids is simple: “Find your happiness”.

By focusing on inner happiness and banishing external negativity, a mother-in-law’s toxic behavior can be mitigated and made unnecessary.

The son sided with his stepmother against his wife
Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA** hole showed their support for a woman who was subjected to harsh insults and treatment from her husband and stepmother.
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“Focusing on the things (people, activities) that spark joy is empowering and liberating,” reads the We Have Kids website. “You consciously choose to shift your focus, change your emotional state, and therefore change your reality.”

The original poster’s “Energy Diet” is an example of this practice, rooted in keeping positive energy in and negative energy out.

In the comments section of the viral post, Redditors applauded the original poster for protecting his peace and dumping his husband and mother-in-law for repeatedly trying to upset him.

“[Not the a**hole]Redditor u/frenchEthanhope wrote in the top comment of the post, which received over 16,000 votes.

“I really like the energy diet! I may have to rob you someday,” they added. “But you have a problem with your husband…don’t fight back, throw yourself under the bus…he should start showing you respect.”

“Tell your husband I hate him,” Redditor u/NihilismIsSparkles chimed in. “Perhaps your husband should spend the next few years bullied that he must lack the ability to be a good husband if he is so happy to leave his [wife] harassed by his family.

Redditor u/IncandescentBun, whose comment received nearly 2,000 votes, echoed that sentiment and encouraged the original poster to leave her hubby behind.

“[Not the a**hole]. But everyone else is. Your husband should defend you FOR YOU when his mother is like that. You don’t need his negativity,” they wrote. “You might consider losing weight, the dead weight your husband is if he’s not on your side.”

“Keep on the ‘energy diet’,” they added. “It’s a good idea!”

News week contacted u/energydiet33 for comment.

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